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Friday, December 9, 2016

Husband asks Mumsnet for advice on reviving his dwindling sex life

4:30 AM Bilal Muazin No comments

Who would you turn to if you were dissatisfied with your sex life?

One desperate husband asked MumsnetÂ for advice after he and his wife went from having sex twice a week to just once every six months after starting a family.

But some women were less than sympathetic towards the new father, who asked the mothers' forum how to broach the subject with his wife, with one telling him: 'You're not owed sex just because you want it.'

The man turned to Mumsnet for advice on broaching the subject of more sex with his wife

PseudoDad said he and his wife have only had sex five times since their son was conceived almost two-and-a-half years ago - they used to have sex twice a week

User PseudoDad wrote on the site: 'Since our son was conceived 2 1/2 years ago we have had sex just 5 times.Â

'Prior to this, we weren't at it like rabbits but I was very happy with twice a week.'

He said he wanted to broach the subject in a way that respected his 'wonderful' wife of six years, and asked: 'When is enough enough?'

His post received hundreds of replies, with women suggesting he do more housework, consider counselling, or simply 'accept that she might just not be interested right now'.

User AndShes Gone told the man it sounded as though he wasn't listening to his wife

Mumsnet user monkeysox was the first to reply when she asked him whether he was doing enough housework.Â Â

PseudoDad replied to insist he does his share, but another mum told him to 'accept that she might just not be interested right now and you have to grit your teeth until she feels she wants it again.

'You're not owed sex just because you want it,' said BravoPanda.Â

Another wrote: 'You're not listening.Â Sex is an action between 2 people. It's not you "giving her a break" or "waiting" for a year. And your "charm offensive" sounds fake or worse manipulative.'

Things began to cool down when a woman told the father that she could tell he was asking a 'genuine' question and admitted she'd struggle in his situation too

Mumsnet user Boundaries said: 'You can decide the relationship isn't for you, but the way you're talking? I'm not surprised your wife is backing off.'Â

But others had a more sympathetic response to his dilemma, with one user writing:Â 'I can tell you're asking a genuine question and you want this to work out well.'

Ilovetorrentialrain suggested he pursue counselling or sex therapy. Â

IcecreamRocks then said that despite not having the answer, they understood how he feltÂ

Honeylulu agreed the man was getting a 'hard time', adding that 'sex is the glue that binds a relationship together.Â

'That intimacy is a form of communication that will not (or should not) be present in any other relationships you have.'Â Â

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Husband asks Mumsnet for advice on reviving his dwindling sex life

8:30 AM Bilal Muazin No comments

Who would you turn to if you were dissatisfied with your sex life?

One desperate husband asked MumsnetÂ for advice after he and his wife went from having sex twice a week to just once every six months after starting a family.

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