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Thursday, December 8, 2016

Americans have been lying about the benefits of abstinence only education and the dangers of porn for decades — Quartz

Over the past few weeks, as the idea of a Trump presidency has gone from unthinkable joke to horrifying reality, I’ve heard a new term making the rounds, particularly among my friends in media. “We’re living in a post-truth era,” they tell me, citing Trump’s many lies and contradictions, the rise of fake news sites, and a growing distrust of the mainstream media as evidence that the American people are increasingly distanced from reality.

I think this is a fairly accurate assessment. But as someone who’s been writing and educating Americans about sex-related topics for over a decade, I can testify to the fact that we’ve been living in a “post-truth” era for years. Quite frankly, I’ve been dealing with a post-truth world for my entire career.

The easiest entry point for understanding America’s fuzzy relationship between sex and fact is the sad state of American sex education. According to the Guttmacher Institute, a mere 13 US states require sex education to be “medically accurate.” To put that in context, 39 states require HIV education to either stress or cover abstinence, in spite of the fact that there’s little proof that a focus on abstinence actually helps delay sex.

Indeed, America’s two-decade long love affair with abstinence-only education (which president Barack Obama has attempted to put an end to) feels like the epitome of “post-truth.” Study after study shows that abstinence-only education doesn’t reduce the rate of teen pregnancy, delay the age at which young people start having sex, or lower rates of STI transmission. But as long as telling kids not to have sex feels like the solution, these misguided lesson plans will likely persist. (In fact, it might actually get worse; president-elect Donald Trump and vice president-elect Mike Pence are not known for an enlightened outlook on sexuality. Pence once said on national television that condoms are “very, very poor protection” against STIs).

This aversion to the truth is much more than a failing of political conservatives. In my experience, liberals are just as willing to ignore the facts when it’s convenient to their larger narrative.

Over the years I’ve rolled my eyes at numerous acts of “journalism” that perpetuated half-truths and outright lies about the sex and porn industriesâ€"often in the supposed service of protecting women. >The Price of Pleasure, for exampleâ€"an anti-porn documentary created by NYU professor Chyng Sunâ€"misled many of its interview subjects and used manipulative editing to craft a vision of a ruthlessly exploitative porn industry that few porn performers recognize. A piece in The Atlantic once positioned double anal, an extreme sex act that even the most practiced porn performers need to warm up to, as a routine occurrence. And let’s not forget the New York Times’ own Nicholas Kristof, whose factually inaccurate writing has peddled numerous myths about sex work and who has positioned himself as a voice of authority in spite of numerous sex workers who’ve contested his version of the “truth.”

The topic of sex is vulnerable to this sort of misinformation for a number of reasons. It’s an intensely personal experience, and one most of us have some degree of experience with. This creates a personal sense of authorityâ€"even when we lack any facts or expertise beyond our own limited experience. Compounding this false confidence is the persistent taboo against public discussions of sexuality. Stigma around sex prevents us from openly and honestly discussing the topic, adding further fuel to the many “truthy” statements that circulate about human sexual experience.

A slumping news industry has coincided with the rise of social mediaâ€"a phenomenon that has made news consumption more individualized and created information bubbles that help reinforce what feels right over what’s actually true.While unfortunate, in this context it makes sense that we’re seeing a spread of inaccuracy in our discussions of politics, the environment, and other hot-button topics that have historically been more buffered from falsehoods than sex.

But if my work in sex education offers me a deeper understanding of the factors that encourage and enable a collective divorce from reality, it also gives me hope that post-truth isn’t a permanent state of being. If we stay committed to pursuing and promoting a reality-based vision of the world, it’s possible to overcome seemingly overwhelming odds.

On the same Tuesday that Trump secured the White House, California’s adult industry battled misinformation, ignorance, and a well-funded propaganda machine to defeat the egregious Proposition 60. Opposed by many health organizations and practically all of California’s adult film actors, the proposition would have violated worker privacy and potentially made it possible for regular Californians to sue porn producers if they believed actors weren’t wearing condoms. Around the globe, sex workers have banded together to make their voices and opinions heard, and are slowly chipping away at the post-truth ethos that’s oppressed their industry for decades (if not centuries).

And even though government-funded sex education is often mediocreâ€"if not outright harmfulâ€"a number of independent sources have harnessed the internet to provide smart, thoughtful, and fact-based sex education to young people around the globe. This is the lesson activists and politicians alike need to internalize in the age of Trump. With enough commitment, dedication, and persistence, the truth can ultimately win out.

Follow Lux on Twitter @luxalptraum. Learn how to write for Quartz Ideas. We welcome your comments at ideas@qz.com.

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Sunday, February 10, 2013

What are some reallllly good romance with a good cheating plot?

Q. Any suggestions, preferably books with lies, cheating ,love, sex, ect. all in one.

A. Broken by Megan Hart.

Wonderfully sensual with all the depth for a great romance novel.

Features emotional cheating as opposed to physical cheating but if all you are looking for is well-written sex scenes, you don't need to look any further.

Do married men ever get tired of having sex with the same person?
Q. What do you think> I heard one man say this is why they cheat because aint nothing like new... new person to sleep with. he told me if not all, most guys will cheat because sex.

A. Only a small %age cheat just for sex. Those that do will always cheat.

Most men cheat because they are not having all their emotional needs met at home. And then they find a friend who makes them feel good about themselves, inflates their ego, and is only there for the good times (not the 'take out the trash' normal every day stuff times). They start to look like the better option.

My hubby hasn't cheated on me, and i'd be SO shocked if he did. I always talk to him, and make sure he's happy, and he knows i am always in his corner. And i also put in the effort and make sure we have an active sex life. I realize it is a need for males, and i also enjoy it.

I concur with the comment about dying our hair. Guys fantasize as much as women do. A different hair color can be a helpful prop for them. ;)

God says marriage is forever and the only cause for divorce is?
Q. in the bible what are the only reasonable things that can cause a marriage to end. what makes divorce okay... cheating? emotional abuse? physical abuse? nothing? and if cheating is a good enough reason for divorce what qualifies as cheating? sex? kissing? date and holding hands? chatting with other women on dating websites and claiming that you are single and looking for someone to start a family with? i need to know what the bible says please

A. There are many causes for divorce; abuse, committing adultery, etc...

"What qualifies as cheating?"

Jesus says that if a man looks upon a woman with lust than he has committed adultery with her in his heart. So cheating is the mere desire/lusting for any woman other than your wife.

When a man and woman divorce, though, they cannot remarry - unless one of them have died. Jesus, I can't remember where at this exact moment, condemned the pharisees for divorcing their wives and making adulterers out of them (because the only way a woman could survive in that culture is if they were either daughters or wives - and therefore would have to remarry if their husband divorced them)... I THINK that in some instances, like this one, one spouse may carry more blame than the other if there is divorce.



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Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Would you agree that its more hurtful to watch when the woman has cheated compared to the man?

Q. Do you agree with this statement?

People say that women cheat for emotions while men cheat for sex.

But some females have cheated for sex, and i have known 2 men in my life who cheated and get married to the other woman. So what do you say

A. No, I would not agree with this statement at all.

Also, men cheat for emotional reasons as well. Honestly, the reason that the person cheats has to do with his or her lack of commitment to his pr her partner. We are not machines hard-wired to get sex any way we can.

What are some reallllly good romance with a good cheating plot?
Q. Any suggestions, preferably books with lies, cheating ,love, sex, ect. all in one.

A. Broken by Megan Hart.

Wonderfully sensual with all the depth for a great romance novel.

Features emotional cheating as opposed to physical cheating but if all you are looking for is well-written sex scenes, you don't need to look any further.

Why do women get caught cheating and get verbally and physically abused for it?
Q. It's happening everyday. Husband learns from other people he knows that his wife is cheating on him, calls her nasty names like slut, whore, tramp, skank, etc. like other people do as well as the other men and the next thing you know he either beats her up and/or kills her, even when she tells him she's having her manstress's child. Why do we still condemn promiscuous women, especially the ones that are known to be maneaters, female cads, female tools, etc. today? Why do we slut shame horny women who cheat for sex as well as money?
@Cassius Dio-The communist and even conservative media slut shames and blasts women for cheating more, especially with many men. Even on shows like Snapped, etc. men beat and/or kill their wives for cheating on them. Men still think of their wives as their property and territory, not to be stolen by other men.
@mallard_razgriz-Too many women get abused for cheating more often than men because of the strict views we have of female sexuality. And yes, women cheat for a thrill to make their man get jealous and go violent and women love it when men are jealous.
@â«The âGräpplërâª-Men can never be treated as property by women or else, they would feel emasculated. And also, men may never know if they are the father of their wife's child or not. That's why they order paternity tests for cheating wives to see if they are pregnant with their manstress's child.

A. she got caught cheating because she was cheating

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Thursday, January 17, 2013

Should I tell my girlfriend I cheated on her during sex or right after sex?

Q. She will be naked during sex so it will give me time to explain while she dresses up. Also, are women more emotionally okay about me cheating during sex or after sex?

A. you should tell her u love her and meet her for breakfast somewhere public and say u really dont deserve her and u cant really live without her u made a horrible mistake and hope she can forgive u and maybe u can think about sex again lol i hope this helps

Would you agree that its more hurtful to watch when the woman has cheated compared to the man?
Q. Do you agree with this statement?

People say that women cheat for emotions while men cheat for sex.

But some females have cheated for sex, and i have known 2 men in my life who cheated and get married to the other woman. So what do you say

A. No, I would not agree with this statement at all.

Also, men cheat for emotional reasons as well. Honestly, the reason that the person cheats has to do with his or her lack of commitment to his pr her partner. We are not machines hard-wired to get sex any way we can.

What are some reallllly good romance with a good cheating plot?
Q. Any suggestions, preferably books with lies, cheating ,love, sex, ect. all in one.

A. Broken by Megan Hart.

Wonderfully sensual with all the depth for a great romance novel.

Features emotional cheating as opposed to physical cheating but if all you are looking for is well-written sex scenes, you don't need to look any further.



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