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Friday, December 9, 2016

Four Oakland police officers fired in wake of sex scandal

3:30 AM Bilal Muazin No comments

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Four officers fired, seven suspended for involvement in sex scandal
Probe began after suicide of officer accused of having sex with underage prostitute

An additional seven officers were suspended without pay, and another is receiving counseling, according to CNN affiliate KRON4.

The four Oakland Police Department officers who were terminated also face charges of attempted sexual assault, lewd conduct in public, assisting in the crime of prostitution, being untruthful to investigators, and failing to report a violation of law for not disclosing that a minor had sexual contact with police.

The seven suspended officers are accused of accessing a law enforcement database for personal gain, failing to report a violation of the law, and bringing disrepute to the department.

Schaaf said at the press conference that the firings and suspensions send "a loud and clear message that we hold our officers to nothing but the highest standards of professionalism and integrity."

Sex, suicide and failure to report: How Oakland police scandal unfolded

Disturbing allegations

The punishments bring some resolution to the scandal that began last fall with the suicide of OPD officer Brendan O'Brien. Officials say an investigation into his death uncovered disturbing allegations.

An 18-year-old former prostitute alleged she had sex with O'Brien, as well as with a number of other officers from the department and officers from nearby jurisdictions.

The young woman, who goes by the pseudonym Celeste Guap, said it all started when she was 17 years old and became romantically involved with O'Brien, who she credits with saving her from a dangerous pimp.

"He saved me when I was 17," Guap told CNN in a phone conversation. "Instead of taking me to jail, we just kind of started something there, you know."

O'Brian, she said, later introduced her to other officers who became customers.

As the investigation widened, other officers became embroiled in the scandal. Ultimately, four police chiefs resigned and 28 officers across five departments were alleged to have had sexual contact with Guap.

Officers reassigned over Bay Area police sex scandal

Multiple relationships

Some of the officers paid to have sex, Guap said. Others exchanged confidential information, such as tipping her off about prostitution stings, for sexual favors.

Of the 28 officers, Guap said 14 were from the Oakland Police Department. The others included five Richmond police officers, several Alameda County Sherriff's deputies, a Livermore police officer and a Contra Costa County Sheriff's deputy.

The Oakland Police Department is no stranger to scandal. Since 2003 a federal monitor has been in place to ensure the department complies with a negotiated settlement agreement stemming from a police corruption scandal.

Officers had been accused of planting evidence and assaulting suspects. No accused officers were ever convicted, but one officer fled prosecution and to this day remains at large. The city paid out more than $10 million to more than 100 plaintiffs and agreed to make reforms, eventually ending up under federal monitoring.

Wednesday's announcements were "about making department-wide changes," Schaaf said.

"We see you, we are here for you, we are here to help you," she added, addressing victims of sexual abuse in the city.

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Saturday, December 10, 2016

Porn, Sex And Marriage: What's OK, And What Isn't? : NPR

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Warning: Today's post deals with sexual content and may not be appropriate for all audiences.

Dear Sugar Radio is a weekly podcast from member station WBUR. Hosts Steve Almond and Cheryl Strayed offer "radical empathy" and advice on everything from relationships and parenthood to dealing with drug problems or anxiety.

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Today they're delving into the adult topics of pornography and masturbation. A man says he masturbates regularly while watching pornography but still maintains a healthy sexual relationship with his wife. But he is still "troubled" by the notion that the porn industry is exploitative of performers, and questions whether it is morally acceptable to fantasize about women other than his wife.

To help in their discussion of these topics, the Sugars are joined by Wendy Maltz, sex therapist and co-author of The Porn Trap.

Dear Sugars,

Is it bad to masturbate to online porn? I am a happily married man in my mid-50s, and have been married for 15 years to a wonderful woman. We have a satisfying sex life, having sex approximately once every week.

However, I go online to masturbate to porn about three times a week. I work from home and find that I become sexually turned on during the working day. I look at masturbation as a healthy release. Viewing online porn allows me to accomplish the "task" more quickly and get back to work.

That other purveyor of personal wisdom, Dr. Phil, advises that watching porn is an immoral betrayal of a marital partner and says the women in porn videos are likely to have been abused as children and are being exploited. I have a teenage daughter and avoid videos of young girls, preferring age-appropriate subjects in the so-called "mature" category. I also avoid watching porn up to 24 hours before I am likely to have a date with my wife in order to be able to enjoy and contribute to our sex together.

Can Men And Women Be Friends Without Benefits?

My wife knows that I look at porn. While we don't discuss it, she doesn't feel that it is a betrayal of her. I look at viewing porn as an extension of masturbation, which I believe is healthy and a necessary release, one that is as private as going to the bathroom. If not for porn, I would still masturbate. I doubt Dr. Phil believes that masturbation is immoral. Is masturbating while fantasizing about someone besides my wife immoral? Assuming that online porn is the problem, is it possible that you can make distinctions?

I know that many of the women on porn sites are probably psychologically damaged in some way, and that the pornography industry may be contributing to that damage. On the other hand, is it possible that accepting money for video sex is not always exploitative? Is it possible that some of the women who perform in online sex videos do it out of a healthy appreciation of sex?

Signed,

Troubled by Porn

Steve Almond: I could have written this letter, and I felt a great sense of sympathy for this guy who's trying to figure out the same questions I struggle with when I bother to even struggle with them: Am I complicit in something that is very clearly against my moral code? In what ways? And what are my other alternatives?

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I think he is in a productive state of bewilderment, and I think most of the men of conscience who consume porn in one way or another are either suppressing this set of questions or are struggling with them. The porn industry is like football or like meat or like fossil fuels â€" it's essentially exploitative. But because I have a libido that operates differently than my wife's, I get horny and I want relief. I lament that I no longer sit there and do the imaginative work of masturbating without porn. There are a lot of people who aren't even grappling with the ways in which pornography is an ethical concern because, frankly, people don't want porn served with a side dish of ethics.

Wendy Maltz: I have a lot of respect for the man who wrote this letter. He's really thinking about his relationship to porn and trying to figure it out. He doesn't have the secrecy and shame element going on that a lot of people have with porn. But there's something happening â€" he's starting to question it. I can't say if his porn use in particular is a good thing or a bad thing. It's so personal. People have ask themselves, "What does porn mean to me? What is it doing to me? Where's it taking me?"

Cheryl Strayed: What do you mean when you say "Where's it taking me?" Do you mean to suggest that, in some ways, his porn use could be robbing his marriage of a sort of intimacy that it might have if he didn't use it?

Wendy: Porn is a very powerful product. It's like nothing we've ever seen before. There's a conditioning process associated with porn. It can become a stronger habit. Our sexual arousal response gets patterned to particular cues, and those cues can be the images in porn or they can be the smell of a lover's neck. Images are very powerful, so porn could be affecting the intimacy he has with his wife in ways he's not even aware of. He says porn is not an issue in his marriage, but he and his wife aren't really talking about its place in their relationship either.

Steve: There's a kind of "don't-ask-don't-tell" policy when it comes to porn in relationships. Pornography, predominantly for men, is a little secret cavern â€" it's a place we go, even if we're in happy, deeply communicative relationships, as it seems this guy is.

Cheryl: Part of my response to this letter is that there's nothing wrong. This guy wants to have an orgasm about four times a week. Presumably, if his wife wanted to have sex more, she would be making advances towards him. And he has a different sex drive than she does, and so he just takes care of himself. He doesn't need to tell his wife. There is such thing as privacy, even when you're married to somebody. Wendy, is this inherently a bad setup, or are you thinking, well clearly, because he's asking these questions, he's not entirely comfortable with it?

Wendy: From a clinical perspective, we're not talking about someone who is disassociated or who uses porn in lieu of sex, but there's something going on for him â€" he signed his letter "Troubled by Porn." One of the things that I wonder about is, why does he use porn a lot while he's working? Is sexual release a way of dealing with stress for him? Maybe he's not feeling as productive or as recognized in his field as he'd like to be? Has porn become a way that he self-soothes? And if so, is that at the expense of learning other ways to take care of himself â€" reaching out to a real person or going for a run?

The other thing is his age. Being a man in his mid-50s, it can take a little longer to get sexually aroused. The erections aren't as firm. Sex can become a little bit more laborious in terms of functioning, but under usual circumstances, that's offset by really good communication with a partner you've been with for years.

Cheryl: Or by a sense of humor â€" that sex doesn't have to be a performance. It doesn't always have to equal orgasm. It's a sensual exchange of pleasure and communication.

Wendy: And there's this wonderful growth that a couple can have. I've been married for nearly 40 years now, but I had a rough beginning as a sexual person. I've now experienced what it's like to be in a long-term relationship where you don't have a heavy influence of porn and where you can really work with your partner and learn with your partner and grow with your partner sexually. I think a lot of couples are missing out on that growth.

Steve: Troubled by Porn, you've reached a moment where you have to ask yourself, "What is the meaning of porn for me? And if I'm unsettled, do I need to start having the difficult, but necessary, discussion with my wife to say, 'I feel greater desire and I want it to be toward you. I want to find a better balance between my porn use and our sex life together.' "

You can get more advice from the Sugars each week on >Dear Sugar Radio from WBUR. Listen to the full episode to hear more about how porn can affect relationships.

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Friday, December 9, 2016

Female teacher had sex session with student, 16, in seedy motel room while her fiancÃ© was on his STAG NIGHT

3:00 AM Bilal Muazin No comments

AFFAIR IN THE CLASSROOM

SaraÂ Domres, 29, hung her head as she was sentenced to two years in jail

A TEACHER who had sex with her 16-year-old student while her fiancÃ© was on his stag nightÂ has been jailed.

Sobbing SaraÂ Domres, 29, hung her head as she was led from court in handcuffs to start her two year sentence.

Sara Domres being led from court after receiving a two year prison sentence

She admitted sex charges after the boy said she slept with him in a Â£40 motel room on her fiancÃ©â€™s stag night â€" and asked him if she should go ahead with the wedding, which was in August 2015.

He addedÂ DomresÂ took his virginity when he was 16 and had sex with him about 15 times Â â€" even sending him selfiesÂ on her honeymoon.

According to court documents, the affair started in March, 2015, whenÂ DomresÂ texted the teen â€" who was her pupil atÂ New Berlin West High School in Wisconsin, USA.

Passionate messages led to meeting up and eventually sex.

Waukesha County Sheriff's Office

Domres took the boyâ€™s virginity when he was 16 and had sex with him about 15 times

But their 10-month affair ended when her high school sweetheart husband caught them having sex in a restaurant car park, leading to a â€œverbal confrontationâ€ â€" before he vowed to stand by his new wife.

Police also recovered almost 1,200 texts exchanged byÂ DomresÂ and the pupil.

In one message, the English tutorÂ wrote: â€œHopefully youâ€™ve been thinking of me Baby Boo. I should go because he will be home soon. I love you. Be good, think of me and no one else! Ha ha.â€

Meanwhile, another text sent just before the motel tryst said: â€œYouâ€™re extremely attractive to me!!! I canâ€™t wait for our night we are doing it no matter what!!!â€

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New Berlin West High School, where the pair met in Domresâ€™ English class

The pair also swapped handwritten love notes, including one saying: â€œPlease be mine forever & ever. Always, your baby girl. P.S. Good luck on your quiz.â€

Domres, who married her school sweetheart in August 2015, was sacked last January after one of the boyâ€™s pals reported their relationship to police.

Waukesha County Circuit Judge Lee Dreyfus said her crimes went â€œwell beyond a mistake in judgementâ€ or a single moment of weakness.

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The Motel 6 in Brookfield, Wisconsin, where Domres had sex with the boy while her fiance was on his stag do

He said: â€œIt was to meet your needs, and not those of a child.â€

Domres pleaded guilty in August to two counts of sexually assaulting a student and will be on three years probation and a supervision order when she leaves prison.

She is alsoÂ banned from having contact with the pupil and his family, and must register as a sex offender.

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Thursday, December 8, 2016

2:00 PM Bilal Muazin No comments

â€˜WEâ€™LL DO IT NO MATTER WHAT!â€™

SaraÂ Domres, 29, hung her head as she was sentenced to two years

Sobbing SaraÂ Domres, 29, hung her head as she was led from court in handcuffs to start her two year sentence.

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Sara Domres being led from court after receiving a two year prison sentence

He addedÂ DomresÂ took his virginity when he was 16 and had sex with him about 15 times Â â€" even sending him selfiesÂ on her honeymoon.

According to court documents, the affair started in March, 2015, whenÂ DomresÂ texted the teen â€" who was her pupil atÂ New Berlin West High School in Wisconsin, USA.

Passionate messages led to meeting up and eventually sex.

Waukesha County Sheriff's Office

Domres took the boyâ€™s virginity when he was 16 and had sex with him about 15 times

Police also recovered almost 1,200 texts exchanged byÂ DomresÂ and the pupil.

Meanwhile, another text sent just before the motel tryst said: â€œYouâ€™re extremely attractive to me!!! I canâ€™t wait for our night we are doing it no matter what!!!â€

Google Earth

New Berlin West High School, where the pair met in Domresâ€™ English class

The pair also swapped handwritten love notes, including one saying: â€œPlease be mine forever & ever. Always, your baby girl. P.S. Good luck on your quiz.â€

Domres, who married her school sweetheart in August 2015, was sacked last January after one of the boyâ€™s pals reported their relationship to police.

Waukesha County Circuit Judge Lee Dreyfus said her crimes went â€œwell beyond a mistake in judgementâ€ or a single moment of weakness.

Google Earth

The Motel 6 in Brookfield, Wisconsin, where Domres had sex with the boy while her fiance was on his stag do

He said: â€œIt was to meet your needs, and not those of a child.â€

Domres pleaded guilty in August to two counts of sexually assaulting a student and will be on three years probation and a supervision order when she leaves prison.

She is alsoÂ banned from having contact with the pupil and his family, and must register as a sex offender.

WeÂ payÂ forÂ yourÂ stories! Do you have aÂ storyÂ for The Sun Online news team? Email us atÂ tips@the-sun.co.ukÂ or call 0207 782 4368

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Friday, December 9, 2016

Story highlights

Disturbing allegations

Multiple relationships

Saturday, December 10, 2016

Friday, December 9, 2016

SEX SCANDAL LAD JAILED

'FIRST TIME HE WAS A COWBOY FOR ME'

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paedo Behind bars

SEX WITH HER PUPIL

Thursday, December 8, 2016

SEX SCANDAL LAD JAILED

'FIRST TIME HE WAS A COWBOY FOR ME'

X RATED

paedo Behind bars

SEX WITH HER PUPIL