Announcing In Intimate Detail: How to Choose, Wear, and Love Lingerie!

How to Choose, Wear, and Love Lingerie!










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I tried to come up with some kind of catchy or witty introduction, but I can’t because I’m just too excited. I can finally share what I’ve been working on for the the last year – my debut book from Ten Speed Press, titled In Intimate Detail: How to Choose, Wear and Love Lingerie.
It’s hard to put into words how I feel right now. For most of the past year, my book has existed mostly as an idea, an outline, a manuscript. It’s been a dream. But now that there’s a cover, a release date, and people can place orders…it feels so real.
Writing a book is something I’ve had on my wishlist for awhile, but it always felt like one of those pie-in-the-sky type things. Other people are book authors. Not me. But I said yes when asked to write this book because I felt like I had something to say.
Many of you know my background. My first career was in nonprofits. For most of the last decade, I’ve lived on the West Coast. To a lot of industry people, I’m an outsider, an interloper. But instead of seeing that as a negative, I firmly believe it’s a positive. Being an outsider means you ask the questions other people take for granted. It means you explore and you inquire and you refuse to accept the status quo.





Over the last ten years of lingerie blogging, I’ve learned so much about intimate apparel, and this book shares what I know with you. Lingerie is a strange, confusing world. So much of the “information” out there is actually misinformation, rooted in myth and superstition. But fiction doesn’t help when it comes to making the right lingerie decisions for your taste, lifestyle, size, and budget.


In Intimate Detail pulls back the curtain, sharing the kind of insider knowledge many experts take for granted. It’s an honest, judgment-free guide you can turn to again and again – not just this year or next, but 5 or 10 years from now. I wanted In Intimate Detail to be a book you could feel comfortable giving to your mom or sister or cousin or aunt, to a friend who’s new to lingerie or recently transitioning, or to a spouse who’s recently entered menopause or been diagnosed with breast cancer.
After reading this book, you’ll not only know the language of lingerie – the terminology and definitions you need to help find the pieces you want – you’ll also know “hidden” information like the purpose of bra seams, the difference between a fabric and a fiber, and the qualities of different types of lingerie materials. And, of course, the book has size charts, sample wardrobes, and appendices for various fit concerns, such as lingerie for trans women, pregnant people, and those with disabilities.

More than anything, I want In Intimate Detail to feel like a warm, welcoming invitation into the world of lingerie. It’s the kind of book you can curl up with wrapped in your favorite blanket holding a cup of tea. It truly represents everything I wish I’d known when I started blogging, and it’s the best book I could possibly write. If you love lingerie or if you love The Lingerie Addict, then you’ll love In Intimate Detail.
One thing you’ll notice, especially if you view the preview images on this page, is that In Intimate Detail has no photography. Instead, the book is full of beautiful watercolor illustrations by Sandy Wirt. That’s intentional. I want you to imagine yourself in this pieces. To fully immerse yourself and be open to all your possibilities…even if they’re options you’ve not considered before. In Intimate Detail will help you build the lingerie wardrobe of your dreams. Because you deserve beautiful underthings. And you deserve to feel beautiful in your lingerie.








In Intimate Detail
will officially arrive in-stores on August 28, 2018, but you can pre-order and reserve your copy now. Pre-ordering not only ensures you get one of the very first copies, it also gets you a few special goodies we’re putting together just for pre-order readers.
It’s hard to put into words just how happy I am right now. I’m so happy with the book and the cover and the art. I’m happy with the foreword from the legendary Dita Von Teese. I’m happy you’re here to share this moment with me. And I’m happy about the book tour I’m planning for later this year where I’ll get to meet some of you.

You can pre-order In Intimate Detail from a wide range of booksellers including Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Books-a-Million, iBooks, Powell’s, Hudson Booksellers, IndieBound, and Penguin Random House. And please tell your friends! Share the cover, share sneak peeks, and let’s help everyone discover the power of beautiful lingerie.
One last thing! When you place your pre-order, email me a screenshot or forward a copy of your receipt to book@thelingerieaddict.com. I want to make sure you get on the list for the pre-order goodies the publisher and I are putting together (It’s going to be a really special exclusive, and it will only be available to pre-orders.).
I don’t talk a lot about myself and my feelings online, but this is simultaneously the most excited and the most scared I’ve ever been. But it also feels like the moment I’ve been waiting for ever since I started blogging. Lingerie is for everyone to enjoy. I firmly believe that. And if you believe it too, then In Intimate Detail is for you.



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Can YOU tell £280 lingerie from a £22 supermarket set? | Daily Mail Online

Can YOU tell £280 lingerie from a £22 supermarket set?


Whether you're hoping to receive a beautiful lingerie gift for Valentine's Day, or the season simply puts you in the mood to replenish your underwear drawer, you'll no doubt be after something a bit more special than a sturdy and standard bra and briefs set. 
When it comes to buying lingerie, everywhere from high street chains to supermarkets and upmarket brands are making a play for your money, so is it really worth splashing the cash on a lingerie set that costs as much as a designer dress?
Model and TV presenter Heather Elrick, 27, from London gave her verdict on 12 styles for Femail, ranging from an £11 high street set to a luxury ensemble costing £280 - with surprising results. 
Heather didn't know how much each set cost or the brand it came as she tried it on, and only discovered the price after she'd shared her thoughts.
While good quality lace and satin are a marker of quality, her verdict shows that you shouldn't discount cheaper brands - even if you're after something special.  

Model and TV presenter Heather Elrick, 27, from London put 12 styles to the test for Femail, but can you tell the designer sets from the high street styles? 


Arista Cupped Bra and Brief, Loveday London £280

A luxury set featuring intricately gold corded lace and matt sand Italian Lambskin leather with a classic shape to enhances the silhouette, while providing uplift and support.

Heather's first impression 

I fell in love with this set before I’d even tried it on! It looked luxurious and high quality, and once I’d tried it on - it did not disappoint. 
Fitting perfectly, and providing fantastic support, the delicate lining and soft trimming also meant it felt lightweight and comfortable. 

Verdict on price

I had a feeling this was an expensive set. It’s more than I have paid for before for underwear but it still stands as a firm favourite. 


Rating: 5/5



Heather models the Arista Cupped Bra and Brief, Loveday London £280. The bra and briefs feature luxury gold corded lace and Italian lambskin leather panelling 


The luxury set costs £280, but despite the hefty price tag it was Heather's firm favourite 


Fiore Padded Plunge Bra and Shorts by Lepel from Figleaves, £40

A padded underwired plunge bra in floral lace with contrasting embroidery and matching shorts in a sheer mesh fabric with intricate floral embroidery, corset style side detail and bow centre.

Heather's first impressions

Girly and sweet, the bra of this pairing was moulded to fit well and give great support. The little lace appliqué was cute, however it was slightly itchy. 
The knickers, although seamless and smooth, felt a little flimsy. I’m guessing high street.

Verdict on price 

Slightly more than I expected it to cost, I personally wouldn’t spend £40 on this set.


Rating: 3/5



Heather wearing the Fiore Padded Plunge Bra and Shorts by Lepel, available from Figleaves. She was impressed by the fit of the lacy bra from the £40 set 


While Heather was pleased with the support of the bra, she found it slightly itchy and said the matching shorts felt a little flimsy 


F&F Signature Lace Trim Silk Plunge Bra and Lace Trim Silk Brazilian Briefs, Tesco, £22

The rose gold plunge bra offers complete support with supersoft, underwired cups adorned with a pretty pale pink-cream lace appliqué. Matching briefs made from premium silk with a touch of stretch feature a floral lace insert to the front.

Heather's first impressions

Another cute colour, the dusty pink caught my eye. I wasn’t a big fan of the lace trimming, it was a bit too much for me on the bra, but the knickers were lovely. It fit nicely and there was nothing bad to say about the quality - however it just wasn’t a front runner for me. 
Verdict on price: I initially gave it two out of five but I'd bump it up to a three because of the cost. It's good quality for price.

Rating: 3/5 


Heather shows off F&F Signature Lace Trim Silk Plunge Bra and Lace Trim Silk Brazilian Briefs from Tesco, £22


Heather felt there was too much lace trim on the bra, but was impressed by the comfort and fit of the matching briefs 


Harper non-padded full support bra and Brazilian briefs, Boux Avenue, £46

A strappy full support balconette bra with lace cups and mesh trim. Comes with matching Brazilian briefs with scalloped detail

Heather's first impression

This was my second joint favourite, mainly due to the bra. I was pleasantly surprised to see something slightly different design-wise with the bra from the rest of the choices, and once on, couldn’t stop looking in the mirror at it! 
It felt pretty but sexy and the material was soft and it was a lot more comfortable than it looked. Again, great support and the knickers were also delicate and fit well. 

Verdict on price

A great price for what could definitely have been more expensive. I’d definitely buy this set.

Rating: 5/5 


Heather in the Harper non-padded full support bra and Brazilian briefs from Boux Avenue, £46



Tease Underwired Bra and Tie Side Brief, Figleaves, £46




A non-padded underwired bra with lace covered cups and satin straps, and the matching medium coverage briefs tie at the side for a cheeky twist. 


Heather's first impressions

I adored the bra of this set; I don’t usually buy bras without padding or a lined cup, but this provided great support and shape and the lace was really pretty. 
However, the bottoms let this set down, as although the side-tie bows were cute; they weren’t practical and didn’t fit well as the front gaped forward, no matter how I tied them. I’d say this was quite expensive, bra but let down by the bottoms. 

Verdit on price 

I’d actually pay this for the bra alone as it was well worth it, I thought it would be more expensive than this so I’m pleasantly surprised.

Rating: 3/5 


Heather sporting the Tease Underwired Bra and Tie Side Brief from Figleaves, £46. She felt the bottoms let the set down as they weren't a comfortable fit 


Heather was impressed by the quality of the bra and would have paid more than £46 for this element alone 




Burgandy Daisy Lace Balcony Bra and briefs,





Peacocks, £11




The £7 bra features an all over lace design and adjustable straps 

Heather's first impression

Although I liked the colour of this set, it wasn’t a favourite. With light padding and a great moulded cup shape, it fit well. 
However it felt slightly cheaper than some of the others, and the lace wasn’t the most delicate looking or feeling. 
The same with the knickers, although they fit well - they just felt slightly cheap. It's a two out of five from me. 

Verdict on price

Extremely well priced, which bumps up the rating. I was right about it feeling slightly cheap but for that price and the fit it’s not too bad overall.

Rating: 3/5 


Heather wears a Burgundy bra and briefs set from Peacocks, £11. Although she initially questioned the quality, Heather concluded it was a good buy for such a low price 



Pamela Loves Coco de Mer Lucky Plunge Bra and Lucky Bikini Brief, Coco de Mer, £105


Underwired to provide support and uplift strategically placed lace draws the eye to the curves, while subtly veiling the bust

Heather's first impression 

Beautiful and sensual - this one made me feel sexy but I just didn’t feel that secure in it. 
The bra was stunning and the bottoms were very daring also. It felt expensive but the comfort levels were a downside.

Verdict on price

Although it costs more than high street, I did think this would be even more expensive than it is.


Rating 3/5 





Lovehoney Flirty Underwired Plunge Bra Red £20.98




Padded half-cups and a plunge neckline to accentuate the cleavage, while the matching shorts offer full coverage with a sheer finish,

Heather's first impression 


This was a very sexy little number, the devilish red however, came across a little cheap for me. 
It was very thin but fit well and gave more support than I thought it would. Although I don’t dislike it, it’s an overall 2/5 for me. 

Verdict on price

Not surprised at the price of this one, and again I’d bump the rating due to its great fit for the price.

Rating: 3/5 


Heather wearing the Lovehoney Flirty Underwired Plunge Bra Red £20.98. She felt the colour was a bit too loud but was impressed by the level of support for the price 


Soft Monroe Bra Black and Knicker, Pom Lampson, £83

A transparent lace bra with a silk chiffon band, inspired by the timeless elegance and glamour of the 1950s. The brand claims it's ideal for larger cup sizes, even though it's not underwired.  

Heather's first impression

I liked the lace and satin-like feels of this one, I can’t quite decide if it’s satin or not, but either way it’s a great feel. 
Simple but sexy, this fit seamlessly but didn’t give the best support with the bra. I’d say it’s mid-range between high street and designer 

Verdict on price 

The price confirms for me that is was great quality, a tad more expensive than I thought but worth it in my opinion.

Rating 4/5 


Heather modelling the Soft Monroe Bra Black and Knicker by Pom Lampson, £83


Although Heather felt the bra didn't offer the best support she was still impressed by the quality. The set was one of her favourites, gaining a four out of five rating 




Leona Black Balcony Bra and brief, Fantasie, £56



An underwired bra with moulded cups and scalloped lace trim to provide extra coverage, while the brief has the same semi-sheer panelling and pretty floral detailing

Heather's first impression

Even though this gave great support and fit amazingly, I just felt very frumpy in it. The shape of the cups was slightly pointy and I don’t feel it was the most flattering. 
The same with the bottoms, they were a great fit but just a bit too frumpy for me.

Verdict on price

More than I thought it would cost, but if you’re mostly interested in a great fit and support then it’s worth it.

Rating: 3/5 because of the fit 


Heather wearing the Leona Black Balcony Bra and brief, Fantasie, £56. Although she was impresed by the fit, she said the style made her feel somewhat frumpy 



Arabella Bra and Briefs, Something Wicked, £244


A bra with gold threaded French lace adorning the silk covered cups with soft picot edge elastic, while the briefs feature a gold threaded lace motif surrounded by soft powermesh.

Heather's first impression

This was almost a favourite, however was only let down by one thing. This felt expensive and designer - it was stunning. I felt glamorous and womanly in it and think the shape and cut of the high waisted pants was extremely flattering. 
However the cups felt like they pressed down and weren’t the best shaped. It was still absolutely beautiful. 

Verdict on price

I was right about it being expensive, it definitely felt it. I just wish the cups had been a better fit.

Rating 4/5 


Heather models the Arabella Bra and Briefs by Something Wicked, £244. It was almost a favourite, but Heather felt the cups of the bra weren't the most flattering shape 


F&F Signature Rae Lace Balcony Bra and briefs, Tesco, £15

Balcony cups with a delicate scalloped edge lace overlay offer a rounded, lifted effect with full underwired support.

Heather's first impression

The thick band of the bra on this set was comfortable and supportive and gave a nice lift. However I wasn’t impressed with the knickers, they weren’t the most comfortable or best fitting and dug in meaning they weren’t very flattering. Maybe high street? 

Verdict on price

Another one where I’d purchase the set just for the bra at that price, well priced - just still let down by the knickers.

Rating: 2/5


Heather wears F&F Signature Rae Lace Balcony Bra and briefs by Tesco, £15. She was impressed by the bra but felt the briefs let the set down 




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She may be aiding in the search to find her home country's next modeling phenom.  
But even in her forties, Heidi Klum is still at the top of her game.
The 44-year-old star absolutely smoldered in newly-released behind-the-scenes photographs to promote Germany's Next Top Model. 

Simply stunning: Heidi Klum absolutely smoldered in newly-released behind-the-scenes photographs to promote Germany's Next Top Model

Heidi looked to still be at the top of her game as she sported all types of skimpy swimwear to promote the upcoming 13th season of the reality show.

She showed off her flawless physique in neutral-colored two-pieces including a white bikini which she teamed with matching strappy heels.
The model also posed in a black bikini featuring a bandeau top and high-waisted shorts with matching heels.

Darkside: The 44-year-old model ooked to still be at the top of her game as she sported all types of skimpy swimwear to promote the upcoming 13th season of the reality show


Big production: There were several people on set to aid in the shooting of the promotional footage


Goddess: She absolutely scintillated while posing on a balcony


Catching rays: She showed of her fantastic figure in the two-piece 

Her blonde locks were worn down as she accentuated her natural features with complimentary make-up. 
Heidi struck a pose in several different places including a deck by the water, on a balcony, and inside of a pool. 
The former Victoria's Secret Angel is definitely a multimedia star as she was filmed and also posed for the sultry snaps.

Stunning: Her blonde locks were worn down as she accentuated her natural features with complimentary make-up


All love: She happily posed with one of the crewmembers 


Lovely lady: She swam in the water for more sultry shots


Gorgeous: No doubt it was a fun day on set 

Germany's Next Top Model returns for season 13 on Thursday, February 8. 
No doubt it is an interesting time in Heidi's life as she is said to have rung in the New Year in Bali, Indonesia with the 31-year-old art curator according to a report in the latest issue of Star Magazine.
Dailymail.com reached out to Heidi's reps and her publicist has no comment on the matter.

Like what you see? The German model seemed to be very involved with the shoot


Daring: She wore all types of swimwear


Coming soon: Germany's Next Top Model returns for season 13 on Thursday, February 8

However according to the tabloid weekly, the former lovers welcomed 2018 together at the Nihi Sumba Resort.
It may not be the happiest of love stories though, as some close to the Project Runway star have expressed reservations about the reconciliation according to Star.
'The last thing anyone wants to see is Heidi reuniting with Vito,' an friend to the German supermodel told the magazine. 'But she always goes running back to him.'

On the go: She was spotted on the Los Angeles set of Germany's Top Model on Friday


Casual cool: She rocked low-cut black top tucked into jeans, and black suede heels


Yum: Heidi looked like she had just grabbed food from catering 

This comes after their most recent split back in September.
At the time, Heidi confirmed the news to People after DailyMail.com reported in mid September that the two are 'taking time apart.'
A source told DailyMail.com on September 13 that there was 'trouble in paradise.'
Heidi was married to Kiss From A Rose singer Seal for nine years as they share four children together. 

Booty shot: The blonde also flaunted her derriere in this selfie she posted on Instagram in the early hours of Monday morning, captioned, succinctly, 'Cheeky'


Back together? Heidi is said to have rung in the New Year with ex Vito Schnabel after their split in September according to Star Magazine, as they are pictured together in New York last February


Leggy lady: According to the weekly, the two enjoyed a relaxing time at the Nihi Sumba Resort in Bali, Indonesia, as she pictured laying out in a tub on her balcony





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She recently had surgery on her back after battling a spinal issue for almost a decade.
But Ruby Rose proved she was on the mend as she shared a snap of herself recovering while enjoying a dinner party at a friend's house on Friday.
The Orange Is The New Black star, 31, dressed down in a 'gay power' slogan T-shirt and tartan pyjama bottoms for the casual Instagram selfie. 

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Recovering: Ruby Rose proved she was on the mend as she shared a snap of herself without her cane - after undergoing spinal surgery

Referencing the furnishings around her, she captioned the snap: 'Gay power and Gucci wallpaper.'
The brunette beauty, who has been pictured spotted with a walking stick at several red carpet over the past two weeks, ditched the aid for the shot.  

The star - who documented her struggles to buy Worcestershire sauce and ice for her pal's dinner gathering earlier in the day - seemed to be in good spirits.
The Pitch Perfect 3 star has been spending the last few weeks recovering from a gruelling spinal operation. 

Tough times: The Pitch Perfect 3 star has been spending the last few weeks recovering from a gruelling spinal operation and has been using a walking frame and cane (pictured) to get around


 Hidden pain: The Orange Is The New Black star revealed she has been battling a 'spine issue' for a decade 

Ruby first opened up about her decade-long battle with a 'spine issue' on Instagram last month.
Sharing a photo of herself sitting in a wheelchair, she said she'd decided to speak up about her condition before she was recognised out in public using the assistive transport device. 
'So... for the past few years (decade) I've been dealing with a spine issue,' she wrote to her 1.34 million followers.

Trauma: Last year, the brunette confessed her spinal issues stemmed from a car accident in her youth (pictured with girlfriend Jessica Origliasso in mid-January after her operation)

'I am now recovering from a back procedure, but I do need to stay active, so before I get seen with my cane and wheelchair in public, I'd rather put it out there that I'm fine and going to be fine.' 
Last year, the brunette confessed her spinal issues stemmed from a car accident in her youth.
Responding to comments about her appearance at a film premiere, she wrote to a fan on Twitter: 'I have a tilted posterior (it's why I have abs but no butt) and spinal curvature from a bad car accident.'

Explaining: Responding to comments about her appearance at a film premiere, she wrote to a fan on Twitter: 'I have a tilted posterior (it's why I have abs but no butt) and spinal curvature from a bad car accident'




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Designer Angela Friedman's vintage silk lingerie is paired with French lace detailing to magnify its luxurious fashion appeal. The alluringly delicate pieces "bridge the gap between an opulent dream world and [the] everyday wardrobe." From corsets and lingerie to night slips and robes, the dominant character quality of the femme fatale is preserved throughout and supercharged with a contrasting French exquisiteness. The Sasha corset and garters, for example, mimic the Rococo era undergarments with a wildly extravagant design in pastel pink, slate blue, tan damask and over-the-top satin ruffles that amplify the hour glass figure.
Boasting comfortable, glamorous and dramatically enhanced designs, the Angela Friedman vintage silk lingerie offerings are the perfect treat for consumers or their significant other on Valentine's Day.







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Porn, Sex And Marriage: What's OK, And What Isn't? : NPR

Warning: Today's post deals with sexual content and may not be appropriate for all audiences.

Dear Sugar Radio is a weekly podcast from member station WBUR. Hosts Steve Almond and Cheryl Strayed offer "radical empathy" and advice on everything from relationships and parenthood to dealing with drug problems or anxiety.

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Today they're delving into the adult topics of pornography and masturbation. A man says he masturbates regularly while watching pornography but still maintains a healthy sexual relationship with his wife. But he is still "troubled" by the notion that the porn industry is exploitative of performers, and questions whether it is morally acceptable to fantasize about women other than his wife.

To help in their discussion of these topics, the Sugars are joined by Wendy Maltz, sex therapist and co-author of The Porn Trap.

Dear Sugars,

Is it bad to masturbate to online porn? I am a happily married man in my mid-50s, and have been married for 15 years to a wonderful woman. We have a satisfying sex life, having sex approximately once every week.

However, I go online to masturbate to porn about three times a week. I work from home and find that I become sexually turned on during the working day. I look at masturbation as a healthy release. Viewing online porn allows me to accomplish the "task" more quickly and get back to work.

That other purveyor of personal wisdom, Dr. Phil, advises that watching porn is an immoral betrayal of a marital partner and says the women in porn videos are likely to have been abused as children and are being exploited. I have a teenage daughter and avoid videos of young girls, preferring age-appropriate subjects in the so-called "mature" category. I also avoid watching porn up to 24 hours before I am likely to have a date with my wife in order to be able to enjoy and contribute to our sex together.

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My wife knows that I look at porn. While we don't discuss it, she doesn't feel that it is a betrayal of her. I look at viewing porn as an extension of masturbation, which I believe is healthy and a necessary release, one that is as private as going to the bathroom. If not for porn, I would still masturbate. I doubt Dr. Phil believes that masturbation is immoral. Is masturbating while fantasizing about someone besides my wife immoral? Assuming that online porn is the problem, is it possible that you can make distinctions?

I know that many of the women on porn sites are probably psychologically damaged in some way, and that the pornography industry may be contributing to that damage. On the other hand, is it possible that accepting money for video sex is not always exploitative? Is it possible that some of the women who perform in online sex videos do it out of a healthy appreciation of sex?

Signed,

Troubled by Porn

Steve Almond: I could have written this letter, and I felt a great sense of sympathy for this guy who's trying to figure out the same questions I struggle with when I bother to even struggle with them: Am I complicit in something that is very clearly against my moral code? In what ways? And what are my other alternatives?

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I think he is in a productive state of bewilderment, and I think most of the men of conscience who consume porn in one way or another are either suppressing this set of questions or are struggling with them. The porn industry is like football or like meat or like fossil fuels â€" it's essentially exploitative. But because I have a libido that operates differently than my wife's, I get horny and I want relief. I lament that I no longer sit there and do the imaginative work of masturbating without porn. There are a lot of people who aren't even grappling with the ways in which pornography is an ethical concern because, frankly, people don't want porn served with a side dish of ethics.

Wendy Maltz: I have a lot of respect for the man who wrote this letter. He's really thinking about his relationship to porn and trying to figure it out. He doesn't have the secrecy and shame element going on that a lot of people have with porn. But there's something happening â€" he's starting to question it. I can't say if his porn use in particular is a good thing or a bad thing. It's so personal. People have ask themselves, "What does porn mean to me? What is it doing to me? Where's it taking me?"

Cheryl Strayed: What do you mean when you say "Where's it taking me?" Do you mean to suggest that, in some ways, his porn use could be robbing his marriage of a sort of intimacy that it might have if he didn't use it?

Wendy: Porn is a very powerful product. It's like nothing we've ever seen before. There's a conditioning process associated with porn. It can become a stronger habit. Our sexual arousal response gets patterned to particular cues, and those cues can be the images in porn or they can be the smell of a lover's neck. Images are very powerful, so porn could be affecting the intimacy he has with his wife in ways he's not even aware of. He says porn is not an issue in his marriage, but he and his wife aren't really talking about its place in their relationship either.

Steve: There's a kind of "don't-ask-don't-tell" policy when it comes to porn in relationships. Pornography, predominantly for men, is a little secret cavern â€" it's a place we go, even if we're in happy, deeply communicative relationships, as it seems this guy is.

Cheryl: Part of my response to this letter is that there's nothing wrong. This guy wants to have an orgasm about four times a week. Presumably, if his wife wanted to have sex more, she would be making advances towards him. And he has a different sex drive than she does, and so he just takes care of himself. He doesn't need to tell his wife. There is such thing as privacy, even when you're married to somebody. Wendy, is this inherently a bad setup, or are you thinking, well clearly, because he's asking these questions, he's not entirely comfortable with it?

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Wendy: From a clinical perspective, we're not talking about someone who is disassociated or who uses porn in lieu of sex, but there's something going on for him â€" he signed his letter "Troubled by Porn." One of the things that I wonder about is, why does he use porn a lot while he's working? Is sexual release a way of dealing with stress for him? Maybe he's not feeling as productive or as recognized in his field as he'd like to be? Has porn become a way that he self-soothes? And if so, is that at the expense of learning other ways to take care of himself â€" reaching out to a real person or going for a run?

The other thing is his age. Being a man in his mid-50s, it can take a little longer to get sexually aroused. The erections aren't as firm. Sex can become a little bit more laborious in terms of functioning, but under usual circumstances, that's offset by really good communication with a partner you've been with for years.

Cheryl: Or by a sense of humor â€" that sex doesn't have to be a performance. It doesn't always have to equal orgasm. It's a sensual exchange of pleasure and communication.

Wendy: And there's this wonderful growth that a couple can have. I've been married for nearly 40 years now, but I had a rough beginning as a sexual person. I've now experienced what it's like to be in a long-term relationship where you don't have a heavy influence of porn and where you can really work with your partner and learn with your partner and grow with your partner sexually. I think a lot of couples are missing out on that growth.

Steve: Troubled by Porn, you've reached a moment where you have to ask yourself, "What is the meaning of porn for me? And if I'm unsettled, do I need to start having the difficult, but necessary, discussion with my wife to say, 'I feel greater desire and I want it to be toward you. I want to find a better balance between my porn use and our sex life together.' "

You can get more advice from the Sugars each week on >Dear Sugar Radio from WBUR. Listen to the full episode to hear more about how porn can affect relationships.

Have a question for the Sugars? Email dearsugarradio@gmail.com and it may be answered on a future episode.

You can also listen to Dear Sugar Radio on >iTunes, >Stitcher or your favorite podcast app.

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Female pensioner charged over 'having sex with dog with the help of alleged paedophile'

A elderly woman has been charged after allegedly having sex with a dog with the help of another pensioner - who is also accused of creating thousands of indecent images of children.

Carol Bowditch, 64, is accused of "causing or allowing sexual penetration by a living animal" during a three-year period between October 2011 and November 2014.

Bowditch was also charged with possessing "offensive, disgusting and obscene" images of people having sex with dogs on March 21.

Daniel Galloway, 65, also of Evedon Village, near Sleaford, Lincolnshire, is accused of aiding and abetting her.

Monks Road in Lincoln where the alleged sex act with the dog took place (Photo: Google)

Galloway was further accused of possessing 191 extreme pornographic images showing people having sex with mutts as well as indecent images of children.

He is accused of making 12,244 category C indecent photographs of children at Green Business Park, Navenby, Lincolnshire, between December 14, 2012 and March 17 this year.

He is also charged with possessing 109 category B pictures and 80 category A images between December 14, 2012 and March 20 this year at the same address.

Galloway faces another charge of distributing 1,863 indecent images of children at his home on February 5, 2013.

He was also charged with possessing 29 prohibited images of children at the Evedon address on March 21.

Bowditch is accused of letting the dog have sex with her at a property on Monks Road in Lincoln.

The pair are set to appear at Lincoln Magistrates' Court later this month.

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Uber to riders: No sex, and leave your guns at home

By Patrick May,  The Mercury News

The inside of an Uber vehicle, that ”third place” that so many of us often find ourselves these days, should also be a safe place, a clean place, a happy place.

Or so says Uber, which this week issued a set of “Uber Community Guidelines”  to keep both riders and drivers on their best behavior.

As the San Francisco-based ride-sharing giant puts it in its press release, “We want Uber to be enjoyable and safe for everyone. These ground rules are designed to ensure that riders and drivers have a five star ride when using Uber.”

Let’s have a look, shall we?

For starters, Uber wants us all to know that sex during a ride is a big no-no. Even flirting is prohibited between the rider and their driver or fellow passengers. (So, yes, group sex is out.) And don’t even think about calling your driver after the ride on their personal cell number and trying to set up a date. In its guidelines, Uber stresses that it has a ”no sex rule” and, just to make sure all you sex-in-public aficionados get the memo, it repeats “no sex” over and over like some Victorian Age mantra.

And  while you’re sitting in the back seat not having sex with anyone else in the car, you should also not vomit.

To be specific, Uber’s guidelines ban “vomiting due to excessive alcohol consumption,” so you could read that to mean that a flu-induced mishap wouldn’t necessarily get you banned forever from an Uber vehicle. But do try and avoid it anyway.

“Most riders show drivers the respect they deserve,” the company said. “But some don’t â€" whether it’s leaving trash in the car, throwing up in the back seat after too much alcohol or asking a driver to break the speed limit so they can get to their appointment on time. This kind of poor behavior is not OK.”

In the interest of time, we’ve condensed for you some of the other things Uber would like you not to do while in their care:

• Don’t touch other passengers.

• Don’t touch the driver.

• Don’t keep the driver waiting.

• Don’t swear.

• Don’t slam the car door.

• Don’t spill your Starbucks Grande, Iced, Sugar-Free, Vanilla Latte with Soy Milk and then not clean it up.

• Don’t look at people suspiciously if they’re not like you.

• Don’t comment on other riders’ appearances.

• Don’t ask your fellow rider if he/she is single.

• Don’t raise your voice.

• And last but not least, don’t bring your firearm with you on an Uber ride.

Outside of that, have a nice ride.

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Yorktown pastor arrested, accused of having sex in church with 15-year-old girl

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Terry Dobbs

Yorktown pastor arrested, accused of having sex in church with 15-year-old girl

Terry Dobbs

YORKTOWN, Ind. â€" Police arrested a Yorktown pastor who admitted he’d had sex with a teenage girl he was counseling.

According to court documents, Terry Dobbs, 53, gave police a full confession after being confronted about his activities with the teen. Dobbs is pastor of Old Fashion United Baptist Church in Yorktown.

Police first learned about Dobbs and the teenager on Dec. 2, when they were contacted about a possible sexual relationship between the two.

The 15-year-old girl told police she’d been having sex with Dobbs for the last two months. During an interview, the teen said it started when Dobbs began counseling her for some problems she was having over the summer.

During those conversations, Dobbs talked about kissing her, the teen told police. After they kissed, they fondled one another and then progressed into sex acts and sexual intercourse at the church.

The teen told police she had text messages from Dobbs on her computer and that the two of them had taken nude photos and exchanged them via computer and phone.

On Thursday, Dec. 8, Yorktown police brought Dobbs in for questioning. He “gave a full confession” about what had taken place, according to court documents, and was arrested.

Charges against Dobbs include sexual misconduct with a minor, vicarious sexual gratification with a minor, child exploitation and child solicitation.

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