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Saturday, December 10, 2016

Britain's 'first gay surrogate dads' want girl triplets via sex selection process illegal in UK

5:00 PM Bilal Muazin No comments

Britainâ€™s first gay couple to father children through surrogacy have sparked heated debate over their plans to have have triplet daughters via a sex-selection process that is illegal in the UK.

Barrie and Tony Drewitt-Barlow want three girls to add to their four sons and a daughter. They plan to conceive the triplets through embryo sex selection, and will do so in the US, where the practice is legal.

The coupleâ€™s youngest children, six-year-old twins Jasper and Dallas, were conceived thanks to a batch of embryos, of which there are still ten remaining in a Californian fertility clinic.

They first became fathers in 1999 Credit: rob bodman

The embryos were created using the coupleâ€™s sperm and the eggs of a Brazilian model. She was paid Â£50,000 by the couple for her eggs after they spotted her on a catwalk.

Barrie outlined the coupleâ€™s plan to pick the female embryos from those ten. They will then be implanted in the womb of a surrogate mother.

â€œThis is baby trafficking, a skewing of the natural order,â€ said a spokeswoman for Christian Concern. â€œChildren are a blessing and a gift, not objects that we select from a showroom.â€

Lisa Ann Magerman, an obstetrics blogger and nurse, raised safety concerns. â€œTriplet pregnancies are very high-risk to begin with,â€ she said â€œSex selection signals they care more about balanced numbers than four lives.â€

Triplet pregnancies are very high-risk to begin with. Sex selection signals they care more about balanced numbers than four livesLisa Ann Magerman, obstetrics blogger and nurse

But not all observers are against the practice of sex selection. In a report into the ethics of gender preference, Stephen Wilkinson, a professor of bioethics at Lancaster, said: â€œWe didn't find any ethical arguments sufficient to justify a blanket ban on these people seeking sex selection.â€

There is â€œtoo much testosteroneâ€ in the Drewitt-Barlow household, said Barrie, adding that he was not too old to be a father again. â€œI need to have another princess in my life â€" or two or three,â€ he told newspapers.

The Drewitt-Barlows, who live in Essex, Â first became fathers in 1999. Each of them fertilised an egg from the same woman, resulting in the birth, thanks to a surrogate mother, of Saffron and Aspen, half-siblings who are both now 17.

They were followed by Orlando, 13, and then Jasper and Dallas. Saffron told newspapers that her fathers are â€œway too oldâ€ for more children.

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Thursday, December 8, 2016

Female Orgasm To Oral Sex; 9 Surprising Things Science Taught Us About Our Sex Lives In 2016

10:00 AM Bilal Muazin No comments

We're constantly reminded of sex, whether by a sultry magazine cover atÂ the newsstand, a steamy scene at the movies, or a night atÂ the bar. Science gotÂ its hands dirty this past year trying toÂ unravel the latest patterns and trends in the field of sex research, aÂ popular and often controversial area of interest. Here's what we learned. Â

Sex: Why It Feels So Good

Many people will admit they love sex because it feels so good. Itâ€™s a source of pleasurable sensations that facilitate an emotional connection between two people, but science has found itâ€™s also an altered state of consciousness. A study in Socioaffective Neuroscience & PsychologyÂ found sexual pleasureÂ floods the brain with a surge of neurochemicals â€" chemical messengers that forge emotions, feelings of attachment, and even love. The level of pleasure thatâ€™s felt is linked to the release of chemicals, which can be used to measure the intensity of an orgasm.

We discovered that if sexual stimulation is intense enough, and goes on long enough, synchronized activity could spread throughout the brain. This intense focused attention outcompetes usual self-awareness for access to consciousness, and so produces a state of sensory absorption and trance.

>Read More: How The Brain Functions During An Orgasm

So, how long should this euphoric-like state last?

In an article for The Conversationalist, Dr. Brendan Zietsch, a psychologist from the University of Queensland, focused on how long heterosexual couples report penetrative sex actually lasts. The findings revealed the average time for each couple, across all the times they had sex, ranged from 33 seconds to 44 minutes. Meanwhile, the average across all couples was 5.4 minutes. This means a couple will typically go for an average of 5.4 minutes every time they have sex. Zietsch suspects penis shape could influence how long men last in bed.

Who's Getting It On Vs. Whoâ€™s Not

Sexless Millennials

Dating apps like Tinder, frequently used by Millennials, haveÂ led casual sex to become more common. Naturally, we would assume Millennials are having more sex, but a study in Archives of Sexual Behavior found more young people are living sexless lives than their counterparts born in the 1960s did at the same age. However, this does not mean a vast majority of young Millennials are having less sex than previous generations. It just means that the amount of people born in the early 1990s who are not having sex is larger than a similar cohort from previous years.

Sex In The â€œGoldenâ€ Years

Many believe once you get older, the sex becomes less and less frequentÂ until it comes to a halt. This year, researchers have noted older adults are having more sex, and they agree it does get better with age. A survey conducted by the University of Guelph and the Sex Information and Education Council of Canada (SIECCAN) found older couples are starting to be active and get creative by adopting new positions and activities. Â People over 40 are still having sex, and becoming more adventurous in bed with more than half admitting they were more interested in trying new things to boost pleasure than they were a decade ago.

The elderly also continue to be sexually active, and consider sex essential to their well-being, happiness, and overall quality of life, especially after retirement. Some older adults abstain from sex due to health conditions, or loss of interest, but others refused to renounce it.

The concept of sex is pretty straight forward, but when it comes to the female orgasm, science is still figuring out one of the greatest mysteries.

This is what science has taught us about our sex lives in 2016. Photo courtesy of Everton Vila, Public Domain

Women And Sex

The Female Orgasm: Hot Spots Of Pleasure

New research pinpoints there's a new understanding of the female orgasm: It incorporates the external clitoral glands, the internal region around the G-spot that corresponds to the internal clitoral bulbs, the cervix, and the sensory stimulation of non-genital areas, such as the nipples. In other words, itâ€™s the stimulation of one or various erogenous zones that induces pleasure and orgasm during masturbation and sexual intercourse.

>Read More: Erotic Hypnosis For Sexual Climax With Mind Control

Researchers believe orgasms don't have to come from one site, nor from all sites, and most importantly, they don't have to be the same for every woman, nor for every sexual experience the woman has to be considered whole and valid. Orgasms are a very individual and subjective experience.

Female Orgasm Can Boost Fertility

Evolutionary biologists have debated the purpose of the female orgasm beyond just sexual pleasure. A study found orgasms could potentially boost fertility by as much as 15 percent. It performs some sort of â€œsperm-retention function,â€ meaning it could act as a suction to â€œsuck upâ€ semen into the vaginal canal. However, there are conflicting studies that debate whether the female orgasm has a biological purpose.

Women Receive Less Oral Sex

Not all is fair in love and oral sex. A study in The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality found women are more than twice as likely to go down on their partners than men, but they are less likely to enjoy performing the act. The biggest gender difference in oral sex was the enjoyment of giving oral. More than half of men who had given cunnilingus reported enjoying it a lot, while an additional 41 percent enjoyed it somewhat, and 7 percent didn't enjoy it much or at all. Contrastingly, only 28 percent of the women who gave fellatio found it very pleasurable; for 55 it was somewhat pleasurable; and 17 percent didn't enjoy doing it. The findings suggest equal reciprocation could satisfy both partners.

>Read More: Does 'Going Down' On Your Partner Have Biological Roots?

Sex In Relationships

Good Sex In Long-Term Relationships

Couples often get into a rut about sex being boring and predictable, but great sex is possible in long-term relationships. A recent study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found long-term couples can reignite the spark, and have better sex, by being responsive to each other. Partners who are responsive to each other outside the bedroom are able to maintain their sexual desire.

More Sex Leads To Positive Feelings About Partners

Unsurprisingly, the more sex we have with our partners, the more likely weâ€™ll begin to have more positive feelings towards them. A study from Florida State University found the frequency with which couples have sex has no influence on whether or not they report being happy with their relationship, but their sexual frequency does influence their more spontaneous, automatic, gut-level feelings about their partners. Whether sex is happening once a month or once every few hours, itâ€™s really about quality over quantity.

In 2016, science has taught us there are shades of grey when it comes to sex â€" itâ€™s not as concrete or simple as we believe.

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Friday, December 9, 2016

Florida Couple Busted For Sex In Public

8:30 AM Bilal Muazin No comments

December 9, 2016

DOCUMENT: Sex, Crime

Police: Pair was "in view" of passersby on St. Pete street

DECEMBER 9--Instead of retiring to either of their respective residences, a couple opted to have sex "in view" of passersby on a Florida street, an indiscretion that resulted in the duo's arrest for public indecency.

According to court filings, a cop caught Ashley Wetzel, 26, and Henry Niblack, 50, in the act Wednesday evening near a St. Petersburg park. Officer Joshua Jordan reported that the duo was having sex â€œin view of patrons walking by on the sidewalk.â€

Jordan reported that he â€œobserved Niblack behind Wetzel, throwing his hips back and forth, inserting his penis into Wetzelâ€™s vagina.â€ Jordan added that the suspects each had their pants at their ankles.

Pictured above, Wetzel and Niblack were arrested for exposure of sexual organs, a misdemeanor. Niblack was released from custody yesterday, while Wetzel, who has a pending theft case, remains locked up in lieu of a combined $650 bond.

Niblack lives in St. Petersburg and works for a construction company. Wetzel resides in Clearwater. Police do not allege that their public tryst was a commercial transaction. (1 page)

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Saturday, December 10, 2016

Cherokee Nation OKs same-sex marriage

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Brittany Nunley and Kelli King were surprised and pleased with the opinion
Cherokee Nation law enacted in 2004 has banned same-sex marriage

A ban on same-sex marriage involving members of the Cherokee Nation was overturned by the tribe's attorney general in an opinion issued Friday.

King called her girlfriend, Brittany Nunley, who is Cherokee and shared the good news.

"I think its awesome," Nunley told CNN. "I have been really proud of my Cherokee heritage and to be able to get a marriage license is just awesome."

King, who said the couple met at a church softball game about four and half years ago, said she was excited to hear about the ruling.

"This is just another way we can incorporate her heritage into our lives and are thankful for opportunity," King said.

Attorney General Todd Hembree's opinion specifically says two sections of the 2004 Cherokee Nation Marriage and Family Act are unconstitutional.

He said the tribe's constitution protects certain fundamental rights, among them the right to marry.

"The constitution affords these rights to all Cherokee citizens, regardless of sexual orientation and the Cherokee Nation, or any subdivision, must recognize validly issued civil unions, same-sex marriages, and same-sex domestic partnerships from other jurisdictions," the opinion says.

The US Supreme Court ruled by a 5-4 vote in June 2015 that states cannot ban same-sex marriage.

Nunley said after it became legal in Oklahoma in 2014 and then nationwide through the landmark Supreme Court decision, she wondered whether the Cherokee Nation would also reverse itself.

"I was really excited and really proud to be a Cherokee. Like my nation is doing something for all its people," she said from her home in Locust Grove, about 20 minutes from the tribe's headquarters in Tahlequah.

Marriage is definitely in their future, King said. It's been discussed in the past but they wanted to wait for it to be legal.

"It's probably not too far off now," she said.

Nunley said she's just waiting for someone to pop the question.

The man who was chief in 2004 told the Tulsa World newspaper that he supported Hembree's opinion.

"It was adhering to past Cherokee law," Chad Smith said, explaining why he signed the law 12 years ago. "But our constitution incorporates the provisions of the US Constitution, and the Supreme Court (of the United States) has since made its ruling."

A member of the tribal council disagreed with the decision and told the newspaper that he expected the council would still support the 2004 law.

"We'll have to get together and talk about it," Don Garvin told the newspaper.

The Cherokee Nation website says that with more than 317,000 citizens, it is the largest sovereign tribal nation in the United States.

CNN's Mayra Cuevas contributed to this report.

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Friday, December 9, 2016

Your birth control could be affecting your sex life and how faithful you are to your partner... and it's not good news

10:00 AM Bilal Muazin No comments

Sex education

According to a Norwegian University and the University of New Mexico your pill can impact more than just your period

BIRTH control could be affecting more than just when your period comes new research claims it can also have an impact on your sex life and how faithful you are.

A study conducted by the the Norwegian University of Science and Technology (NTNU) and University of New Mexico found that your type of pill can make you more likely to stray away.

New research has revealed that your birth control could be impacting your sex life and faithfulness

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New research by the Norwegian University of Science and Technology (NTNU) and University of New Mexico has revealed that your birth control could be impacting your sex life and faithfulness

Researchers surveyed 274 straight university females, who lived in Norway and were were all in relationships about their sex life in the past week.

The questionnaire also asked how committed and loyal they were to their partners and which particularly type of contraceptive pill they used.

On the whole, women who were more faithful to their partners had sex more often but this was especially common with those too the pill which contained lowered oestrogen levels and high progesterone.

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On the whole, the research found women who were more faithful to their partners had sex more often

While those on birth control with high oestrogen and lowÂ progesterone had sex more often when they didnâ€™t feel loyal to their partners.

However, the effect only existed for penetrative sex with a penis not solo sex or any other type of partner.

The researchers also conducted another study which surveyed 112 women every week for three months to find out more about their hormones and behaviour over time.

The results once again revealed that less oestrogen and more progesterone were linked with frequency or sex and commitment but there was no difference with perceived loyalty.

The findings supported the theory that women initiate sex more when they have high progesterone levels Â but only if the feel serious about their relationship.

NTNU psychology professor Leif Edward Ottesen Kennair said in a press releaseâ€œThe function of sex in humans outside ovulation is an evolutionary mystery.

â€œBut we believe that it has to do with binding the parties in the relationship together.â€

The Norwegian University of Science and Technology (NTNU) and University of New Mexico conducted a survey which found that women who were on high levels of progesterone pills were more loyal and had sex more with their partner

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But the survey found that women who were on high levels of progesterone pills were more loyal and had sex more with their partner

Overall, the study helped reveal more about how birth control affects our sex lives and shed some light on how it might impact our relationships.

â€œPrevious workâ€¦indicates that the initiation or termination of birth control usage during a relationship can have consequences for womenâ€™s relationship satisfaction,â€ the researchers concluded.

â€œOur findings suggest that the type of hormonal contraceptive women select may affect sexual behaviour with partners.â€

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Post-Election, Survivors Of Assault Are Struggling To Have Sex Again

4:00 PM Bilal Muazin No comments

After the now infamous recording of President-elect Donald Trump bragging about grabbing women by the pussy came out, Anna*, 33, went to her Facebook page to share her story. In high school, she had been raped by her boyfriend, and in that moment, she wanted people to know.

â€œI didnâ€™t say anyoneâ€™s name, I just said I had been raped and I was a domestic violence and sexual assault survivor, and why it bothered me so much what Trump had said,â€ Anna told The Huffington Post. â€œI said, this is not just locker room talk. This happens to people, and this happened to me.â€

After posting,Â Anna felt great. She heard from several women who shared their own stories and she helped connect them to resources. But then her ex-boyfriend reached out, saying he was going to sue her â€• at the the same moment Trump was threatening to sue his accusers. It was an unsettling parallel Anna could not quite wrap her head around, and she was anxious for the election to be over.

â€œI kept wanting to think that Trump wouldnâ€™t get elected and our nation would say this kind of thing isnâ€™t OK,â€ Anna said. Since Trumpâ€™s win, she has been in a tailspin. For a week-and-a-half, she couldnâ€™t sleep. She still hasnâ€™t really been able to be intimate with her husband.

â€œSince Trumpâ€™s comment, weâ€™ve only had sex a couple of times,â€ she said, adding that she was going to meet with her doctor to talk about options. â€œI donâ€™t want to feel this way.â€Â

I had gotten to a point where I had taken my own power back from my rapist, and this felt like the American people telling me, "No, no. He still has more power over you." Ali, 28

The 2016 presidential campaign was difficult for many women, especially those who felt triggered by Trumpâ€™s so-called â€œlocker room talk,â€ and a string of allegations that heâ€™d groped and kissed women without their consent. But Trumpâ€™s win, they say, is even more difficult â€• not just a reminder of everything theyâ€™ve been through, but a minimizing of it. And it has left their sex lives in shambles.

â€œIt resurfaced a lot of past trauma that I had experienced about seven years ago when I was sexually assaulted,â€ Ali, 28, told The Huffington Post. â€œI had gotten to a point where I had taken my own power back from my rapist, and this felt like the American people telling me, â€˜No, no. He still has more power over you.â€™â€

Prior to Trumpâ€™s win, Ali had sex with her husband every other day. Now, theyâ€™ve been having sex maybe once a week â€• not nothing, but not the same. When they do have sex, Ali feels far less enthusiastic.Â

â€œIâ€™m just not as comfortable letting myself be sexual right now,â€ she said.

It is hardly a surprising reaction, says Wendy Maltz, a sex therapist and author of The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide For Survivors Of Sexual Abuse.

â€œHere, we have a really unprecedented situation where a person who has been identified as a sexual perpetrator by many women has been elevated to the highest position in the country,â€ she said. â€œFor many [people] whoâ€™ve been sexually abused, itâ€™s a huge shock.â€

Trumpâ€™s broader triggering effect has been well-documented. Soon after Trumpâ€™s â€œgrab them by the pussyâ€ tape came out,Â RAINNÂ â€•Â the sexual assault survivor nonprofit that runs the National Sexual Assault Hotline â€• saw call traffic increase by 33 percent. At one point during the campaign, 3,000 therapists signed a â€œmanifestoâ€ detailing the psychological toll they believed Trump was taking on their patients, everything from anxiety and fear to shame, Politico reports. One therapist who works with survivors of domestic abuse and sexual assault told Slate sheâ€™d seen an uptick in patients calling for emergency counseling sessions, and experiencing flashbacks and an inability to go outside.Â

When I look at Donald Trump, I have this visceral reaction where I look at him as someone who actually sexually assaulted me. Jamie*, 31

But itâ€™s not just Trumpâ€™s behavior, Maltz said. Itâ€™s the feeling that many Americans simply didnâ€™t care enough about their experiences to vote against a sexual aggressor that has made it so challenging for women to be intimate again, even with trusted partners. And Maltz points to research that has found that â€œinstitutional betrayalâ€ â€• the kind that happens when a student reports an assault and his or her university fails to provide backup â€• can exacerbate trauma, leading to further anxiety, depression and sexual problems.

â€œThose results suggest that institutions â€• or in this situation, the election â€• has the power to cause additional harm to assault survivors in the form of sexual effects,â€ she said. Women can feel re-traumatized, Maltz added. They can project their feelings onto someone else, such as a partner or even Trump himself.

Thatâ€™s exactly what is happening to Jamie*, 31, who was date raped when she was 16.

â€œWhen I look at Donald Trump, I have this visceral reaction where I look at him as someone who actually sexually assaulted me,â€ she said. â€œIt has put me into this hole, where I donâ€™t feel like I want to be intimate with my live-in boyfriend of four years.â€ They have not had sex since the election, and she has no sexual appetite right now.

Jamie understands, of course, that Trump did not actually assault her â€• but she canâ€™t shake the feeling that she has been violated in some way.Â

â€œIâ€™ve never experienced looking at a stranger and having that kind of reaction,â€ she said. Jamie is hopeful she and her boyfriend will resume their sex life soon, but the thought of seeing Trumpâ€™s face every day for four years worries her.

â€œI just feel like, ugh. Dirty. Muddy,â€ Jamie said. â€œI feel like I was victimized.â€

* First names have been changed for privacy reasons.Â

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Saturday, December 10, 2016

Thursday, December 8, 2016

Sex: Why It Feels So Good

Who's Getting It On Vs. Whoâ€™s Not

Sexless Millennials

Sex In The â€œGoldenâ€ Years

This is what science has taught us about our sex lives in 2016. Photo courtesy of Everton Vila, Public Domain

Women And Sex

The Female Orgasm: Hot Spots Of Pleasure

Female Orgasm Can Boost Fertility

Women Receive Less Oral Sex

Sex In Relationships

Good Sex In Long-Term Relationships

More Sex Leads To Positive Feelings About Partners

Friday, December 9, 2016

Police: Pair was "in view" of passersby on St. Pete street

Saturday, December 10, 2016

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Friday, December 9, 2016

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